Charlie Kirk on How to Love LGBTQ Friends While Sharing Biblical Truth About God's Design
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Charlie Kirk on How to Love LGBTQ Friends While Sharing Biblical Truth About God's Design
Charlie Kirk addresses a student named Joseph who is concerned about his little sister forming close friendships with LGBTQ classmates. Kirk explains the four types of love found in Greek, phileo, agape, eros, and storge, and argues that true love sometimes means communicating information people don't want to hear. Using a personal story about avoiding the dentist until a bacterial infection forced him into emergency surgery, Kirk illustrates how telling hard truths can be the most loving action. He encourages Joseph to share God's design for relationships in a gracious, non-cruel way, emphasizing that biblical truth about marriage and sexuality comes from a place of wanting others to flourish according to God's plan.
A student named Joseph approached Charlie Kirk with a concern many Christian families face today. Joseph's school has a large LGBTQ population, and his little sister has developed close friendships with some of these students. While Joseph doesn't believe his sister supports the LGBTQ lifestyle, he's uncertain how to navigate this situation or guide her through these relationships.
The Foundation: Understanding Biblical Love
Kirk begins his response by emphasizing that love must be at the center of all interactions. However, he points out a critical misconception in American culture about what love actually means. Drawing on what he acknowledges as a common Christian teaching, Kirk outlines the four types of love found in the Greek language:
Agape: Sacrificial love for God and others, exemplified in John 3:16 where God so loved the world that He gave His only son
Storge: The love between a parent and child
Eros: Romantic love between spouses
Phileo: Brotherly or sisterly love
Kirk emphasizes that in all forms of love, the goal should be to help people live the best life possible. This sometimes requires communicating information that people don't want to hear. The key distinction he makes is that sharing difficult truths doesn't require harshness, cruelty, or meanness.
The Dentist Story: When Love Tells Hard Truths
To illustrate his point, Kirk shares a personal story about his deep aversion to dentists, whom he jokingly calls "medieval witch doctors." Despite experiencing a throbbing pain in the back of his mouth during June and July, Kirk stubbornly ignored it. By August, the pain had worsened to the point where he could barely open his jaw or host his radio show.
When Kirk finally found himself in a dentist's office in Scottsdale, the orthodontist—who happened to be a fan of Turning Point USA and his podcast—examined him and delivered news he didn't want to hear. Within five minutes, she told him he needed surgery within the next 48 hours due to a bacterial infection that could spread to his brain.
Kirk's immediate response was to argue and debate, insisting on "my truth." But the dentist stood firm, explaining that she loved him too much as a fellow human being to let him leave without urgent antibiotics and scheduling surgery immediately. Kirk had to cancel everything on his calendar, which he describes as "a disaster," but he acknowledges it was the loving and right thing to do. The surgery was completed, his wisdom teeth were removed, and he's still here today because someone cared enough to tell him a hard truth.
Applying the Principle to LGBTQ Relationships
Kirk draws a direct parallel between the dentist's loving intervention and how Christians should approach conversations about sexuality and God's design. Just as the dentist told him something he didn't want to hear because she cared about his wellbeing, Christians should want to share the loving and truthful message of how God wants people to live.
According to Kirk, God wants people to live in relationships between a man and a woman, in a monogamous way that allows them to flourish and have children. He acknowledges this is "an unpopular political thought crime to say in America today," but maintains that recognizing this cultural reality doesn't mean Christians have to be cruel or mean in how they communicate this message.
The Loving Approach: Grace Without Compromise
Kirk's guidance to Joseph is to approach his sister's friendships with a brotherly or sisterly love that seeks the best for everyone involved. This means trying, in every way possible, to communicate that God has a better plan. The message should be: "God has a better plan in store for you. God wants you to flourish in a way that you haven't even imagined or dreamed of yet."
The conclusion Kirk offers is both challenging and compassionate: "In fact, I love you so much I'm willing to tell you something that you might not want to hear." This framework allows Christians to maintain biblical convictions about sexuality and marriage while approaching LGBTQ individuals with genuine care and concern for their ultimate wellbeing, mirroring the kind of love that sometimes delivers uncomfortable truths for someone's greater good.
