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Charlie Kirk is the Founder and President of Turning Point USA, the largest and fastest growing conservative youth activist organization in the country with over 250,000 student members, over 150 full-time staff, and a presence on over 2,000 high school and college campuses nationwide. Charlie is also the Chairman of Students for Trump, which aims to activate one million new college voters on campuses in battleground states in the lead up to the 2020 presidential election. His social media reaches over 100 million people per month and according to Axios, he is one of the "top 10 most engaged" Twitter handles in the world. He is also the host of “The Charlie Kirk Show,” which regularly ranks among the top news shows on Apple podcast charts.
Charlie Kirk Tells College Student Why Political Alignment Matters More Than You Think in Marriage
A college student named Tyler asks Charlie Kirk for relationship advice about his girlfriend who shares his Christian faith and many values but differs on political beliefs. Tyler attends Spokane Falls Community College and deliberately avoided the party scene at liberal universities. His girlfriend has liberal parents and they disagree on issues like Trump, immigration policy, and foreign aid priorities. Charlie Kirk delivers stark advice about the importance of political alignment in marriage, explaining why macro agreement on issues matters more than micro preferences. He warns about the challenges of raising children in a politically divided household and the dynamics of in-law relationships when there's ideological conflict.
Tyler, a student at Spokane Falls Community College, approached Charlie Kirk with a relationship dilemma that many young Christians face in today's polarized political climate. He and his girlfriend are both Christians who agree on fundamental issues like abortion and how humans should be treated. They can even discuss mainstream news together with some level of agreement. Yet they voted differently, and political differences have created tension in their relationship.
Tyler explained that identity politics and candidate personality versus policy have divided them. His girlfriend prioritizes foreign aid while he believes America should focus domestically after the damage of the last four years. She views Trump as anti-immigrant while Tyler sees him as anti-illegal immigrant. When Tyler asked whether his girlfriend would vote more Republican than Democrat, he answered that she probably wouldn't, largely based on the foreign aid issue.
Charlie Kirk's Blunt Assessment
Kirk didn't mince words with his response: "Do not marry this girl." He explained that you should not marry someone that you cannot talk about the daily news with. You should not build a life with somebody where you cannot agree on what daily news channel to watch. Kirk emphasized that when you have to instill values in a child, you cannot have the first elemental issue at 7 a.m. when you turn on the radio or a podcast be disagreement.
"You got enough of that already in a home," Kirk said. "You need to have harmony."
Macro Agreement Versus Micro Disagreement
Kirk made a critical distinction between macro and micro issues in relationships. He advised building a life with someone where you have agreement on the macro issues while acknowledging that disagreement on micro issues is acceptable. According to Kirk, you need to agree on religion, eternity, and political matters. These are macro issues. You can disagree on what type of food you like, bedtime, the type of cars, or where you vacation. Those are micro issues.
The reason macro agreement matters so much, Kirk explained, is the impact on children. He posed a scenario where a father takes the son in the morning and then the child is with the mother, asking whether that kid would hear two different things. "A house divided can't stand," Kirk said. There must be harmony because if one parent says Trump is one thing and the other parent contradicts that, the child will recognize the disunity.
The Reality of In-Laws in Marriage
Tyler revealed that his girlfriend's political beliefs have been heavily influenced by having two liberal parents, and that she's currently in school. Kirk's response was immediate: "Do not marry this girl. Like you do not want liberal in-laws. Like this is you do not want this. I'm telling you, run away. Find somebody else."
Kirk explained that in-laws are very important and become embedded in your life. You almost inherit them as pseudo parents. If Thanksgiving and Christmas become sources of tension rather than excitement, that's a problem. Kirk warned about warfare in the family and delivered what he called "the more blunt truth."
Biology and Family Loyalty
Kirk asked Tyler whether his girlfriend has a good relationship with her dad. When Tyler confirmed she does, Kirk delivered a hard truth: "She'll side with him over you every time." He explained that she will leak to her parents against Tyler if she feels the politics is harming the marriage. Her first love is her dad, and if she has a good relationship with him and feels Tyler is bringing bad ideology into the family, she will go back to her liberal parents and Tyler will be on an island.
Tyler tried to defend his girlfriend, saying she has an open mind and he doesn't want to put her under the stereotypical liberal label. He shared an anecdote about her dad, who knows how Tyler voted and is a strong advocate against Trump but has never brought it up to Tyler directly. Tyler said his girlfriend has called out her dad for not having enough of an open mind and has told her dad that she's torn between him and Tyler.
The Biological Reality
Kirk acknowledged the anecdote but remained firm in his advice. "Tie goes to the runner, which means tie goes to the biology," he said. It's unfair for the girlfriend to be put in a position where she has to choose between her father and her boyfriend. Kirk emphasized that his perspective comes from over 10 years of seeing and doing this work, and that political agreement is a necessary foundational element when building a family.
Tyler thanked Kirk for the advice, acknowledging he has a lot to pray about and wrestle with. Kirk's counsel represents a perspective that prioritizes long-term compatibility over short-term emotional connection, arguing that political alignment isn't just about preferences but about the fundamental ability to raise children with unified values and maintain family harmony.
