Get the Girl: How to Be the Kind of Man the Kind of Woman You Want to Marry Would Want to Marry

The online manosphere has a lot to say about women, attraction, and male identity, and some of it is even accurate. The problem is that it's wrapped in evolutionary assumptions, reductionist cynicism, and the kind of bitter selfishness that repels the very women it claims to attract. Evangelical pastors haven't done much better. Their version of servant-leadership tends to be heavy on the servant and light on the leadership, producing agreeable men who are genuinely baffled when being a doormat fails to generate attraction. Douglas Wilson isn't interested in either extreme. In Get the Girl, he writes directly to young men about how to pursue a woman, with advice that is commonsense in the best sense of the word, sharp enough to cut through the noise, and thoroughly rooted in Scripture. Feminism has fed men a series of lies about what attracts women and what holds them. Wilson names those lies and replaces them with something better. The goal isn't just to attract the right woman, it's to become the kind of man who is worth keeping once she's there. That's a higher bar than either the manosphere or the evangelical beta-pastor is willing to set, and Wilson sets it without apology.