Get the Guy: How to Be the Kind of Woman the Kind of Man You Want to Marry Would Want to Marry

"Where are all the guys?" If that question resonates with you, you're not alone. Douglas Wilson has spent decades fielding it from young Christian women who look around their churches and find the pickings slim, and the ones who do show up, odd. His answer is characteristically blunt: stop overcomplicating it. You're allowed to want a man who is strong, capable, and willing to lead. That desire isn't something to be ashamed of, it's something to be embraced. Heterosexual relationships are, by nature, cross-cultural affairs. Men and women come from different worlds, and making peace with that reality is the first step toward a healthy marriage. Wilson counsels young women to guard their hearts, rein in runaway romantic fantasies, and resist both the trap of radical independence and the paralysis of waiting for a perfect man who doesn't exist. The practical femininity Wilson describes isn't passive, it's purposeful. It's rooted in biblical wisdom, shaped by restraint, and fueled by genuine faith in God's providence. Stop chasing the fantasy. Stop manufacturing the outcome. Embody the qualities that attract the right kind of man, and trust that God is competent enough to handle the rest.