Steve Deace and Charlie Kirk Confront the American Church's Crisis of Courage and Masculinity

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Steve Deace and Charlie Kirk Confront the American Church's Crisis of Courage and Masculinity

Steve Deace joins Charlie Kirk to deliver hard truths about the state of American evangelicalism and its failure to reach men. Born to a 15-year-old mother who refused abortion despite pressure, Deace shares his journey from aimless young man addicted to pornography to born-again believer converted at a Promise Keepers event in 2003. The conversation addresses why churches have become feminized, corporatized, and afraid of confrontation, leading young men to seek tradition in Catholicism instead. Deace argues that pastors must stop fearing people more than God, that men need structure and mission from their churches, and that the church's primary job is simple: open the Bible and tell people exactly what it says without self-editing.

June 5, 2025

The American Church's Lost Courage

Charlie Kirk opens the conversation acknowledging that despite electoral victories, the American church remains far weaker and less courageous than it should be. Steve Deace, host of a show on The Blaze following Glenn Beck, arrives uniquely positioned to address these uncomfortable truths about the spiritual battle facing Christianity in America.

From Abortion Target to Media Voice

Deace shares his remarkable origin story. Born on July 28, 1973, to a 15-year-old mother who discovered her pregnancy at 14, his life nearly ended before it began. His paternal family, prominent Democrats in Des Moines, offered his mother and grandmother $500 to abort him. His grandfather was a powerful district court judge, his great uncle sat on the city council, and they used every form of pressure available. His mother couldn't bring herself to do it, taking that $500 instead to start a new life in California.

The challenges continued. His mother married a Navy shoreman who modeled the abusive alcoholism of his own father. Deace grew up without strong masculine role models, became a good student and decent athlete, but entered college aimless and overexposed to pornography. Meeting his future wife gave him initial direction, but true transformation came later.

Conversion at Promise Keepers

In September 2003, Deace attended a Promise Keepers event in Kansas City. The day the church announced it, he felt compelled to attend. The day before, he felt overwhelming resistance, as if it was the worst place he could go. At the event, speaker Joe White erected life-sized crosses while discussing the damage fathers do to their sons. Deace looked around the arena at 12,000 men and wondered who told the speaker he was coming.

When the altar call came, Deace initially resisted, unwilling to prove God right about him. Then suddenly, he found himself on the concrete floor of Kemper Arena, having moved from the upper deck, sobbing years of accumulated pain, purging darkness from sins committed and sins committed against him.

But conversion required community. Men from that event surrounded him afterward, creating accountability that lasts to this day. Twenty years later, one of those men texted him on the way to this event, having just lost his job, knowing Deace would be there to pray and help him rebuild at age 50.

Why Churches Fail Men

Deace argues you can tell everything about a church by examining its men's ministry or lack thereof. Many pastors don't want vibrant men's ministries because men operate differently than women. Men don't want to perpetually discuss feelings. They'll purge their sins once or twice at a barbecue, then they're ready for action. They want to know when they're going to war.

Men need structure, mission, and challenge. They need competition. The church, because families have fallen apart, must now provide that structure for the next generation. Everything in the last generation of Church Growth Inc. was designed to reach "Karen"—the suburban woman whose biggest daily struggle is making it from school drop-off to her Pilates appointment on time. That's why the music must be uplifting and hope-filled.

It's time to reach Ken, Charlie, and Steve. CS Lewis said aim for heaven and you'll get earth thrown in; aim for earth and you'll get neither. If you reach the men, you'll get the wife and kids too. If you leave the men alone, you'll get neither. Churches must now make it their purpose to go after men who are clamoring for direction in ways they haven't for generations.

The Feminization and Corporatization of the Church

Deace identifies two devastating bargains made by the American church. First, pastors have become Esaus instead of Jacobs—men chasing immediate gratification instead of troubled men wrestling with God who have a divine call. Churches don't have elders anymore; they have boards of directors. They don't have creeds; they have mission statements. Sunday services are for unbelievers, and if you want real discipleship, come back Sunday night after they've collected the tithe.

The church's primary mission is to equip the saints for the work of the ministry through discipleship, not just evangelism. Second, feminism gave men an escape from responsibility. Men didn't want the responsibility that comes with headship—the knowledge that God comes to the man first when the family falls apart, just as He called Adam, not Eve, after the fall in the garden.

Inverting the Greatest Commandment

The church has inverted Jesus's summary of the commandments. The two stone tablets Moses brought down represented the vertical relationship with God (first five commandments) and the horizontal relationship with people (second five). Jesus summarized them: love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, strength, and mind, then love your neighbor as yourself.

The modern church has made "love your neighbor as yourself" the greatest commandment, placing people in the position of primacy where God belongs. Now churches will inject cowardice, heterodoxy, and outright heresy because they might drive somebody away. They fear offending neighbors more than offending God. People are important—they're the only thing in creation made in God's image—but they're not God.

Churches act as if salvation depends entirely on their marketing. God has done everything through Jesus, but if you don't put the right frosting on the cake, people won't get saved. That's not how it works. Your church is not "a way"—there's only one Way, and His name is Jesus. Stop fearing the one who can destroy the body; start fearing the one who can destroy both body and soul in hell.

The Pastor's Simple Job Description

Deace offers a brilliantly simple job description for pastors: feed the sheep and shoot the wolves. Jesus told Peter, "If you love me, feed my sheep." Augustine said there are many sheep without, but many more wolves within. How do you know who's a sheep and who's a wolf? Boldly proclaim the truth in season and out. The consequences of how that truth is received are not your responsibility.

He shares the story of the last great revival of the Jewish people under King Josiah, which began when priest Hilkiah found a dusty scroll while cleaning pagan relics from the temple. It was the Torah, ending with Moses saying, "I have set before you blessing and cursing. Choose life so that you may live in the land." Josiah didn't just reset festivals and law—he went to the high places and tore down the idols.

Deace offers free strategy advice: walk into a pulpit, open the Bible, read it out loud, and tell people what it says. The greatest weapon in any spiritual culture war is a man of God with the courage to open that book and tell people what it actually says, come what may. Sheep will respond saying they didn't know. Wolves already knew but didn't care. Throw the wolves out and feed the sheep.

When to Leave Your Church

Charlie asks for practical guidance on leaving weak or woke churches. People offer excuses: they got married there, have memories there, the kids' ministry is great, the coffee is excellent, the parking is organized, they love the worship music. Some say they have a relationship with the pastor and think they can make progress.

Deace shares his own story. His former church wasn't woke but was weak. He thought the softer approach would be therapeutic since his job is the culture war, and he worried about making faith overbearing for his kids. Then in summer 2022, when Roe v. Wade was overturned, his pastor essentially apologized for it. Deace had helped lead the fight for one of the first heartbeat bills in America, getting to sign the proclamation in his state legislature. His pastor made him feel like a freak, saying "we're a pro-life church, but we understand not everybody here agrees."

Then the church invited Preston Sprinkle to speak. Deace had never heard of him despite his extensive connections in the evangelical world. He called Jeremiah Johnston, pastor of apologetics for Jack Graham's church in Dallas, who immediately warned him not to let that camel's nose under the tent. When Deace approached his pastor, the response revealed the church's number one doctrine: non-confrontationalism on every front.

Deace called together his wife and 16-year-old son to discuss changing churches. His son immediately said he'd been wanting to leave for years but respected his father too much to say anything. His exact words: "Dad, can we please go to a church where I don't think I can beat up the pastor?"

Deace distills the decision into a simple test: If the training brigade showed up in your church parking lot doing drag queen story time hour while service was happening, would your pastor stop service immediately, assemble the elders, go out there to confront them, and remove them from the premises? If yes, remain. If no, never go back.

The Problem with Megachurch Mentality

Megachurch is not a population, it's a mentality. Calvin preached to thousands in Paris and Geneva. Spurgeon preached to thousands in London. At Pentecost, 3,000 men were saved, not counting women and children. The question is whether you have elders holding the pastor accountable or a board of directors acting like investors in a stock. Do you have people in leadership you pretend are irreplaceable?

Deace challenges the audience to name the five or ten greatest evangelical teachers still alive and working, then ask if they know who's positioned in those congregations to take their place. The answer is no, and that's a problem. People knew Joshua would succeed Moses, Elisha would succeed Elijah, that Jesus had apostles. Where are this generation's successors?

You're not that valuable or indispensable. Nobody is. The salvation of people is between them and the Lord. There are no intermediaries between God and man anymore. The veil is torn. If you pretend your church is an intermediary, you've just undone the Reformation and gone back to 1516. Get off your high horse. You're not a brand. You're not that important. Even if specific churches didn't exist, the stones would cry out.

The Freedom of Not Being God

When Deace saw Chris Tomlin and his band perform "Famous One" at a Promise Keepers event, they did something remarkable. After the song, as men sang the chorus, they put down their instruments and walked off stage so they wouldn't take applause. It would be ironic to sing a song called "Famous One" about Jesus being the only famous one, then take a standing ovation.

Understanding that you're not that important is one of the most freeing experiences possible. There is a God and you're not Him. This doesn't all rise and fall on you. You can rest on His shoulders. Before Deace comes out for speaking engagements, he does nothing except go to the corner stall in the men's room, get prayed up, no script or notes. Whatever he says after that isn't his responsibility—take it up with God. That's freeing compared to thinking you must prepare and script everything constantly. We have a script: Genesis to Revelation, 66 books.

No Neutral Spaces Exist

During the Q&A, someone asks about corporate social responsibility. Deace responds there's no such thing as secular, and there are no neutral spaces. Someone will always rule, something will always be worshiped. That's an iron law of the universe. Secularism was introduced to disarm Christians, making them think schools could just teach reading, writing, and arithmetic without Christianity. That was done to remove Christianity so a new religion could take its place.

In France, about 2% are evangelical. Old Catholic cathedrals are now strip malls, vacant, or mosques. Someone will always rule and something will always be worshiped. This applies to the corporate sector too. Rush Limbaugh used to say a corporation's only job is producing profit for investors. Deace believed that when he thought moral neutral spaces existed. His Christian faith changed him as a conservative, and he now sounds more like JD Vance.

Every piece of legislation has a moral basis—it's just a matter of whether it's actually moral. People say you can't legislate morality, but that's the only thing you can legislate. Others warn about theocracy, but every government that's ever existed has been a theocracy. It's just a matter of who the deity is and whether they're really the deity.

Cold Civil War and the Social Compact

America is beyond a culture war now. We're in a cold civil war. The social compact—that which binds a people together before they confirm it in a constitution—is broken. Just as there was going to be either the West or the Soviet Union, it will be one worldview or the other. It's a steel cage match. Two worldviews walk in, only one comes out. Deace prefers wars where his side wins. Corporations will either promote their values, Christian values, or the values of the spirit of the age. There's no neutrality. Churches are either selling Michael Sam jerseys or Tim Tebow jerseys. There's no in between.

Developing Intimacy with God

Asked about encouragement for those desiring change, Deace says you cannot have a more intimate relationship with God initially than with His word. It's the only perfect thing on earth. He shares a story about Adrian Rogers, who early in ministry did an old-fashioned Baptist tent revival that nobody attended. Discouraged, Rogers went into the woods, opened his Bible randomly, and said if God truly called him to ministry, it better speak to him. He looked down at Ezekiel where the prophet says, "Though they are a wicked and stiff-necked people, they will know that a prophet was among them." Rogers realized his job wasn't the results but delivering the message.

If you want a more intimate relationship with God, open His word expecting He has something to say.

Spiritual Warfare in Filmmaking

Asked about his film "Nefarious," Deace confirms they're working on a sequel and mentions that people nearly died during the first film's production—the devil did everything he could to stop it. But he shares a story of how spiritual warfare is waged on the winning side.

After filming, finding an editor who could do a Christian horror film proved difficult. Their first editor bombed, producing a terrible rough cut. During a commercial break on his show, Deace received an email from Brian Jeremiah Smith, who said he was a believer who never missed the show and had been waiting for this movie. He'd just been laid off from Netflix as their top editor because he was the only one who didn't take the jab. The Supreme Court ruled they couldn't fire him, so Netflix put him on indefinite paid leave. His resume was entirely in the genre they needed.

They couldn't afford him, but Netflix was paying him anyway. So they paid what they could and Netflix picked up the rest of the tab. The scripture that says "the wealth of the wicked will be stored up for the righteous" was fulfilled right there.

Challenges in Conservative Media

Asked about the biggest challenge in conservative media, Deace says knowing what information is even true to comment on. When he first started, he went to the Gospel Coalition website daily as a must-read. Now he wouldn't have his dog defecate on it. He has to do extensive homework and verification just to know what's true before commenting.

Kirk says his biggest challenge is the petulant infighting. He believes if someone has more than two hours of screen time on social media apps, something is wrong. Go for a walk, buy a lake, get a girlfriend. Being chronically online is very bad and creates a willingness to have more provocative takes in ways that are destructive to the movement.

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